Deeper Than Face Value

This is something that has been on my mind for QUITE some time now
Blog is for the ladies =)

How many of you females find that time and time again, you end up with a brother that seems like he is ONLY tryna get in your pants? Things seem great at first and the future is looking mighty bright, but as weeks (maybe months) pass by, the conversation leads more towards a sexual agenda more than an emotional agenda. After a while, the relationship spirals outta control and the "Break Up" occurs. OR, you both are SOOOOOO in love with each other, that you give sex a try. THEN after time passes, he doesn't seem to try as hard anymore. Doesn't do the things he used to. Say all the sweet things he did in the beginning. Or even take you on dates that seem like he put a lot of thought into them (blown face) lol.

Yes the guy may have some issues. But most of the time, I find it being the females fault for the detrimental outcome of the "relationship".

Waitttt wait waiiitttt lol...Before you click the back button and continue surfing the web, hear me out. Have you ever stopped and actually LOOKED in the mirror?

My Observation: Most females that end up in those kinds of relationships are the ones giving off the wrong signals from the jump. First impressions are LASTING impressions, and no matter how much a guy gets to know you, that first impression sticks (Confession of a Male Mind). Think about it. When you first met him were you wearing something like leggins, short shorts, skin tight jeans, low v-neck with your breast showing, xs cami with a push up bra, or ANYTHING that would ACCENTUATE and Respectfully COMPLIMENT your body?? As a young African American lady, its knows that you are blessed with curves that normally would drive the male hormones crazy. Now if something like THAT was the first thing he saw you in, his first and lasting impression of you quickly turns into his conscious or subconscious Motive.

Every guy has a motive, and don't let any guy tell you he doesn't. Its the difference in positive or negative in the motive that can make impact. After seeing you in an outfit that ACCENTUATES your body parts, his motives could EASILY be "Mannn what I would do to hit that". He may not even know he is thinking it. And the "relationship" that you two build could be built on top of two different motives. Basically starting the timer for the explosion in which is your break up. The whole time he might seem like the sweetest guy and you probably wont even see signs of him wanting to get into your pants until intimacy (through making out) is introduced into the relationship. Then comes "The sex talk" or what I'd like to call "The game plan", and later..BOOM...Sex...

So ladies if you ever wondered why you keep running into the same type of guys that always seem like they want whats in your panties, take a look in the mirror and think deep

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